I think most of you know how I feel about television, I don't believe it belongs in the early childhood classroom, here's an article that looks closely at this issue. Feel free to send your comments on where you stand on this issue!
Patricia
SHOULD BABIES and TODDLERS WATCH TELEVISION?
By Elizabeth Pantley, author of Gentle Baby Care and Kid Cooperation
So much television programming is aimed at young children. Much of it appears to be educational: teaching the ABCs and life skills. When is it appropriate to introduce a baby to television, and what do parents need to know about this topic?
A great deal of research has been done on the effects of television on children’s lives. The first step in making the decision is to get the facts. Because nearly all of us have one or more TV sets in our home, and since most of us watch some TV nearly every day, we may not want to hear what research tells us, but these are things parents need to know.
Experts suspect that babies younger than two years old view TV as a confusing array of colors, images, and noises. They don’t understand much of the content. Since the average TV scene lasts five to eight seconds, your baby or toddler doesn’t have enough time to digest what’s happening.
Cartoons and many children’s shows are filled with images of violence. If you find this hard to believe, surf the TV on Saturday morning. The realism portrayed in today’s cartoons has moved light years beyond the Bugs Bunny type of violence. Many children’s shows almost are animated versions of adult action films. Research shows that exposure to this type of programming increases the risk of aggressive behavior and desensitizes children to violence.
Babies and toddlers have a very literal view of the world. They can’t yet tell the difference between real and pretend, and they interpret what they see on TV as true life. Research has demonstrated that many young children believe that TV characters actually live inside the TV set. This can confuse young children’s understanding of the world and get in the way of their learning what’s right or wrong. It can paint a picture of a frightening, unstable, and bewildering world ¾ and your little one does not yet have the faculties to put what he sees into proper perspective.
Television watching can be addictive. The more that children watch, the more they want to watch. Even toddlers can become drawn to the set. Once addicted, turning off the TV can become a daily battle. Children who watch TV excessively often become passive and lose their natural creativity; they eventually have a hard time keeping themselves busy, and they lose valuable time that should be dedicated to “play” ¾ the foundation of a healthy childhood and the primary way that very young children learn.
Parents sometimes unwittingly begin to use TV more and more as a way to keep their children happy and quiet. It takes a strong will and dedication to avoid the easy route provided by this free and easy ¾ yet sometimes dangerous ¾ babysitter.
Children experience unparalleled physical, mental, and emotional growth in the early years of life. Time spent watching television is time taken away from more healthful activities that nurture growth and development.
Children who watch a lot of television during their early years are at risk for childhood obesity, poor social development, and aggressive behavior. They often have trouble adjusting to preschool or kindergarten. According to a study by Yale Family Television Research, teachers characterized children who watched excessive television as less cooperative, less imaginative, less enthusiastic about learning, and less happy than those who watched little or no TV.
Due to all the above reasons, the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends that parents not allow children under two to watch any television.
You may have noticed that all of these points demonstrate the negative aspects of letting babies and toddlers watch TV, and you’re wondering if there are any positives. There are a few, but I’ll be honest: I had to be very creative to come up with this list, since published research doesn’t demonstrate many good points for putting a young child in front of a television. But we need to be realistic and acknowledge that most of us aren’t going to put our TVs in the closet until all of our children start school. Here are some of the good points of television for children:
Quality children’s programming can teach your child basic academic skills, such as the ABCs, counting, addition, science fundamentals, basic language skills, manners, and even early reading skills.
Your child can view things she might not otherwise see in daily life: exotic animals, distant lands, musical instruments, historical places, and diverse lifestyles. Your child can learn about the world beyond her home and neighborhood.
Your child can learn basic social skills from watching wholesome programming: how to play with other children, how to use good manners.
Using extraordinarily careful selection and restraint, a little bit of television can provide a parent with much-needed down time, or time to catch up on tasks that need adult-only attention.
TV watching tips for parents of babies and young children
The following tips may help you minimize the negative and maximize the positive effects of television watching for your little one:
Hold off introducing television ¾ even videos ¾ to your baby as long as possible. If you wait until your child’s second birthday, you can consider yourself incredibly successful in starting your little one off well and with the kind of real-life interaction that is so important for his development. If you decide to allow TV before your child turns two, choose programming carefully, limit viewing time and skip days when possible. (Daily viewing easily becomes habit.) The less watching time, the better! Set a goal, such as no more than 30 minutes or an hour per day, or one favorite show, so that you’ll not be tempted to turn the TV on too frequently.
Watch programs yourself before you allow your baby or toddler to watch them. Just because a network markets a show to young children doesn’t mean it will reflect your own family’s morals and values. You will be amazed to discover that many programs aimed at children contain violence or topics that are inappropriate for your child. Don’t assume that your baby can pick out the moral message from a program that features violence or conflict on the way to an important lesson.
Pay attention to commercials ¾ surprisingly, an excellent children’s show will sometimes feature commercials that depict the exact things you don’t want your little one to see!
Choose programs that are developmentally appropriate for your child. For you, this means shows that are slow, boring, and probably somewhat goofy. But choose programs from your child’s perspective, not your own.
Invest in a collection of appropriate and educational videos for your child so that you won’t be confined to network programming schedules when you are ready to let your little one watch something.
Watch along with your child when you can so that you can monitor your child’s reactions to what he’s seeing. Invite questions and discuss what you are watching so that you can understand your little one’s take. Point things out and talk about what is being taught to get the most of out of educational TV. You may even follow up with some lessons afterwards.
Avoid keeping the TV on when no one is actively watching. Many people do this and are used to the background noise the set generates, but your child will almost surely be exposed to programming that is inappropriate for her.
Make a conscious decision about how you will use television in your family; don’t watch it by accident or default.
This article is a copyrighted excerpt from Gentle Baby Care by Elizabeth Pantley. (McGraw-Hill, 2003)
Tuesday, January 27, 2009
Thursday, January 15, 2009
Time to Share!
Hello Again! Welcome back to KIDBIZ, a place to share ideas and resources for early childhood professionals and child care providers. I will be using my blog from now on to share the immense amount of resources and articles I have access to through my position as a child care professional and author. I hope you find them useful in your day! If there is any topic you would like to see information on, please let me know and I'll find it for you.
This first post will contain an article by Elizabeth Pantly, the author of the No-Cry Series of books. I have alot of great information from her and we'll start with this article on Tantrums, Fussing and Whining - something we all deal with everyday!
Be sure to post your comments so I can continue to bring you the type of information you need.
Patricia
Tantrums, Fussing and Whining
from The No-Cry Discipline Solution (McGraw-Hill 2007) by Elizabeth Pantley
If you ask parents to list the most frustrating discipline problems during early childhood, you would find that these three items appear on every list. All children master their own version of these behaviors – every parent has to deal with them!
Controlling their emotions
Most often these behaviors are caused by a child’s inability to express or control his emotions. Tiredness, hunger, boredom, frustration and other causes that ignite The Big Three can frequently be avoided or modified. When your child begins a meltdown, try to determine if you can tell what underlying issue is causing the problem. Solve that problem and you’ll likely have your sweet child back again.
Handling tantrums, fussing and whining
No matter how diligent you are in recognizing trigger causes, your child will still have meltdown moments. Or even meltdown days. The following tips can help you handle those inevitable bumps in the road. Be flexible and practice those solutions that seem to bring the best results.
Offer choices
You may be able to avoid problems by giving your child more of a say in his life. You can do this by offering choices. Instead of saying, “Get ready for bed right now,” which may provoke a tantrum, offer a choice, “What would you like to do first, put on your pajamas or brush your teeth?” Children who are busy deciding things are often happy.
Get eye-to-eye
When you make a request from a distance your child will likely ignore you. Noncompliance creates stress, which leads to fussing and tantrums – from both of you. Instead, get down to your child’s level, look him in the eye and make clear, concise requests. This will catch his full attention.
Tell him what you DO want
Instead of focusing on misbehavior and what you don’t want him to do, explain exactly what you’d like your child to do or say instead. Give him simple instructions to follow.
Validate his feelings
Help your child identify and understand her emotions. Give words to her feelings, “You’re sad. You want to stay here and play. I know.” This doesn’t mean you must give in to her request, but letting her know that you understand her problem may be enough to help her calm down.
Teach the Quiet Bunny
When children get worked up, their physiological symptoms keep them in an agitated state. You can teach your child how to relax and then use this approach when fussing begins.
You can start each morning or end each day with a brief relaxation session. Have your child sit or lie comfortably with eyes closed. Tell a story that he’s a quiet bunny. Name body parts (feet, legs, tummy, etc.) and have your child wiggle it, and then relax it.
Once your child is familiar with this process you can call upon it at times when he is agitated. Crouch down to your child’s level, put your hands on his shoulders, look him in the eye and say, let’s do our Quiet Bunny. And then talk him through the process. Over time, just mentioning it and asking him to close his eyes will bring relaxation.
Distract and involve
Children can easily be distracted when a new activity is suggested. If your child is whining or fussing try viewing it as an “activity” that your child is engaged in. Since children aren’t very good multi-taskers you might be able to end the unpleasant activity with the recommendation of something different to do.
Invoke his imagination
If a child is upset about something, it can help to vocalize his fantasy of what he wishes would happen: “I bet you wish we could buy every single toy in this store.” This can become a fun game.
Use the preventive approach
Review desired behavior prior to leaving the house, or when entering a public building, or before you begin a playdate. This might prevent the whining or tantrum from even beginning. Put your comments in the positive (tell what you want, not what you don’t want) and be specific.
When it’s over, it’s over
After an episode of misbehavior is finished you can let it go and move on. Don’t feel you must teach a lesson by withholding your approval, love or company. Children bounce right back, and it is okay for you to bounce right back, too.
Excerpted with permission by McGraw-Hill Publishing from The No-Cry Discipline Solution (McGraw-Hill 2007) by Elizabeth Pantley http://www.pantley.com/elizabeth
This first post will contain an article by Elizabeth Pantly, the author of the No-Cry Series of books. I have alot of great information from her and we'll start with this article on Tantrums, Fussing and Whining - something we all deal with everyday!
Be sure to post your comments so I can continue to bring you the type of information you need.
Patricia
Tantrums, Fussing and Whining
from The No-Cry Discipline Solution (McGraw-Hill 2007) by Elizabeth Pantley
If you ask parents to list the most frustrating discipline problems during early childhood, you would find that these three items appear on every list. All children master their own version of these behaviors – every parent has to deal with them!
Controlling their emotions
Most often these behaviors are caused by a child’s inability to express or control his emotions. Tiredness, hunger, boredom, frustration and other causes that ignite The Big Three can frequently be avoided or modified. When your child begins a meltdown, try to determine if you can tell what underlying issue is causing the problem. Solve that problem and you’ll likely have your sweet child back again.
Handling tantrums, fussing and whining
No matter how diligent you are in recognizing trigger causes, your child will still have meltdown moments. Or even meltdown days. The following tips can help you handle those inevitable bumps in the road. Be flexible and practice those solutions that seem to bring the best results.
Offer choices
You may be able to avoid problems by giving your child more of a say in his life. You can do this by offering choices. Instead of saying, “Get ready for bed right now,” which may provoke a tantrum, offer a choice, “What would you like to do first, put on your pajamas or brush your teeth?” Children who are busy deciding things are often happy.
Get eye-to-eye
When you make a request from a distance your child will likely ignore you. Noncompliance creates stress, which leads to fussing and tantrums – from both of you. Instead, get down to your child’s level, look him in the eye and make clear, concise requests. This will catch his full attention.
Tell him what you DO want
Instead of focusing on misbehavior and what you don’t want him to do, explain exactly what you’d like your child to do or say instead. Give him simple instructions to follow.
Validate his feelings
Help your child identify and understand her emotions. Give words to her feelings, “You’re sad. You want to stay here and play. I know.” This doesn’t mean you must give in to her request, but letting her know that you understand her problem may be enough to help her calm down.
Teach the Quiet Bunny
When children get worked up, their physiological symptoms keep them in an agitated state. You can teach your child how to relax and then use this approach when fussing begins.
You can start each morning or end each day with a brief relaxation session. Have your child sit or lie comfortably with eyes closed. Tell a story that he’s a quiet bunny. Name body parts (feet, legs, tummy, etc.) and have your child wiggle it, and then relax it.
Once your child is familiar with this process you can call upon it at times when he is agitated. Crouch down to your child’s level, put your hands on his shoulders, look him in the eye and say, let’s do our Quiet Bunny. And then talk him through the process. Over time, just mentioning it and asking him to close his eyes will bring relaxation.
Distract and involve
Children can easily be distracted when a new activity is suggested. If your child is whining or fussing try viewing it as an “activity” that your child is engaged in. Since children aren’t very good multi-taskers you might be able to end the unpleasant activity with the recommendation of something different to do.
Invoke his imagination
If a child is upset about something, it can help to vocalize his fantasy of what he wishes would happen: “I bet you wish we could buy every single toy in this store.” This can become a fun game.
Use the preventive approach
Review desired behavior prior to leaving the house, or when entering a public building, or before you begin a playdate. This might prevent the whining or tantrum from even beginning. Put your comments in the positive (tell what you want, not what you don’t want) and be specific.
When it’s over, it’s over
After an episode of misbehavior is finished you can let it go and move on. Don’t feel you must teach a lesson by withholding your approval, love or company. Children bounce right back, and it is okay for you to bounce right back, too.
Excerpted with permission by McGraw-Hill Publishing from The No-Cry Discipline Solution (McGraw-Hill 2007) by Elizabeth Pantley http://www.pantley.com/elizabeth
Thursday, June 14, 2007
Balancing Being a Parent and Being A Provider
What's YOUR story? Redleaf Press has asked me to work on a book about the struggles and triumphs of balancing being a parent and being a provider for family child care providers. Having raised two daughters in my daycare, I experienced two extremes. My oldest was so thrilled to be a part of the group that she actually got upset with me whenever I DID try to find special time for her. My youngest was always so jealous of the attention I gave other children that she was forever hanging on me begging for attention, no matter how much special time I made for her!
I'm sure many of you have had your ups and downs with this as well! I'd love to hear your stories and include them in the book. I'd like to get a discussion going here, providers sharing ideas and problems and everyone putting their heads together to find solutions.
I've been trying to do research for this and it's hard to come by - that tells me that it's sorely needed information and makes me really want to get help to providers looking for it.
I look forward to hearing all your comments!
I'm sure many of you have had your ups and downs with this as well! I'd love to hear your stories and include them in the book. I'd like to get a discussion going here, providers sharing ideas and problems and everyone putting their heads together to find solutions.
I've been trying to do research for this and it's hard to come by - that tells me that it's sorely needed information and makes me really want to get help to providers looking for it.
I look forward to hearing all your comments!
Monday, May 21, 2007
WARNING: Bumo Infant Seat: "The Babysitter"
I received the info below from one of my newsletter recipients, Heather. I had a brief article about these new infant seats called "The Babysitter." They are extremely developmentally inappropriate for infants - tell your daycare parents!
babies r us/toys are us are not the only places carrying those "babysitter" things -
http://www.toysrus.com/family/index.jsp?categoryId=2534416&cp=2255975
but the scary things is readying all the reviews--i did not see one negative things about them. there are ones on there saying they are used in day cares too...
they also have them at target too
http://www.target.com/gp/search.html/601-3074659-1751305?field-keywords=bumbo&url=index%3Dtarget&ref=sr_bx_1_1
just thought you might want to see these!
heather
babies r us/toys are us are not the only places carrying those "babysitter" things -
http://www.toysrus.com/family/index.jsp?categoryId=2534416&cp=2255975
but the scary things is readying all the reviews--i did not see one negative things about them. there are ones on there saying they are used in day cares too...
they also have them at target too
http://www.target.com/gp/search.html/601-3074659-1751305?field-keywords=bumbo&url=index%3Dtarget&ref=sr_bx_1_1
just thought you might want to see these!
heather
Back Where I Started
Well, the countdown begins! I have three weeks left at Patty Cake Preschool. But this week, instead of getting geared up to say "goodbye" to my kids - I get to say "hello" to a baby! One of my families has a two-month-old, Mom has been taking maternity leave and staying home with him, but she's a teacher and needs to return to school for the final weeks. I was elated when she asked if I could take him a couple of days a week! (Dad is staying home on other days.)
17 years ago I opened my family child care business with one client - a two month old baby! So here we are, all these years later, ready to close the doors, and I get the opportunity to open my door, and open the world, for one more baby before I go! I feel so blessed. I can't think of a better way to spend my last day than holding a baby and hanging out with the kids I've loved for years.
But if I'm honest, I'd have to admit it makes it a bit hard too. Nothing gets me going more than looking into the eyes of a newborn and seeing all those possibilites. All the joyful days watching butterflies, giggling at the older kids doing a show, learning those first words, taking those first steps, petting a cow for the first time, watching a plane take off and land and take off again, putting on a real fireman's helmet, throwing toys in the wading pool to see which float and which sink, slapping paint on a sheet with a fly swatter, making that first handprint in clay to give to Mom on Mother's Day. So much to show them, to teach them, to share with them. I love the infinite possibilities in an infant's eyes. So I have to admit, knowing I won't have the chance to offer these experiences to this little guy tugs at my heart.
But also, knowing I DID do all these things and more with his older sister tells me that she's got it in her to open that door to the world for him. I know each of my kids has in them the desire to keep going with what I started. They know that being curious can lead to knowledge and adventure. They know that being creative can solve their problems and add beauty to our world. They know that being courteous is the foundation for friendship and the most effective form of communication. They know. And they'll spread the word, I can count on it.
17 years ago I opened my family child care business with one client - a two month old baby! So here we are, all these years later, ready to close the doors, and I get the opportunity to open my door, and open the world, for one more baby before I go! I feel so blessed. I can't think of a better way to spend my last day than holding a baby and hanging out with the kids I've loved for years.
But if I'm honest, I'd have to admit it makes it a bit hard too. Nothing gets me going more than looking into the eyes of a newborn and seeing all those possibilites. All the joyful days watching butterflies, giggling at the older kids doing a show, learning those first words, taking those first steps, petting a cow for the first time, watching a plane take off and land and take off again, putting on a real fireman's helmet, throwing toys in the wading pool to see which float and which sink, slapping paint on a sheet with a fly swatter, making that first handprint in clay to give to Mom on Mother's Day. So much to show them, to teach them, to share with them. I love the infinite possibilities in an infant's eyes. So I have to admit, knowing I won't have the chance to offer these experiences to this little guy tugs at my heart.
But also, knowing I DID do all these things and more with his older sister tells me that she's got it in her to open that door to the world for him. I know each of my kids has in them the desire to keep going with what I started. They know that being curious can lead to knowledge and adventure. They know that being creative can solve their problems and add beauty to our world. They know that being courteous is the foundation for friendship and the most effective form of communication. They know. And they'll spread the word, I can count on it.
Monday, May 14, 2007
Potty Training The Parents
This is a CALLING ALL PROFESSIONALS post from the KIDBIZ newsletter. See if you have some advice to offer this fellow child care professional.
Rachel, a family child care provider in Iowa, recently wrote to me asking for help with potty training a young girl in her daycare, just about 3 years old. She wrote:
Rachel, a family child care provider in Iowa, recently wrote to me asking for help with potty training a young girl in her daycare, just about 3 years old. She wrote:
I'm currently in a situation where the parents wanted to start training their daughter at 22 months. No big deal right? Now, almost a year later and she still will not tell me when she has to go. If i ask her if she has to go I am told no and she goes in her underwear. Now, I've given them a checklist on what the signs for readiness are and I know that she doesn't have all the signs but the parents insist on training her. I'm kind of at a standstill here. Also, they use a mixture of Pull-Ups and the vinyl pants with the padded underwear built in them. Often they forget to send any extras so after an accident she has nothing to wear except a diaper I can give her from my own supply. She has accidents here and at home. Can you help?
It sounds to me like Rachel is having more problems with the parents than she is with the child. Successful potty training always begins with the parents! Everyone has to have an agreed upon plan in order to teach the child, or there will just be mixed signals for the child. I have a plan to offer Rachel, but I'd really like to hear your input first! Send in your comments to Rachel and let's help her solve this problem!
Tuesday, May 1, 2007
What I Love About Child Care
I think it's time for a more personal blog entry...
I have been in the child care business for over 17 years and I have loved every moment of it. This is why it has been such a difficult decision for me to close my Family Child Care business, Patty Cake Preschool. But being an author, speaker, provider, mother, wife among many other titles has finally gotten to be a load too big for me to carry. June 7, 2007 will be my last day for my school. Each day that it gets closer my anxiety grows. I LOVE these kids! I don't remember what life is like without getting a hug every morning, snuggling with a child on the rocker to read, playing ball on a summer day or even having apples and graham crackers for a morning snack! I have been defined by my child care business for so long it's scary to consider that part of me to be gone.
As I try to sort through the toys to sell at the end of the month I find myself hoarding away many of them! There are certain things I just can't imagine not being in my house. Like the castle with a dragon and princess, the number cups I made with the kids over 10 years ago, my song cards, our tea set, the dump truck in the sandbox. I've decided to keep these items and my excuse is that someday I'll get to be the cool Grandma with lots of neat stuff to play with at her house! Sounds viable right?
Then there's the things I can't save. Like the kisses little Kolton gives. Or the roll of the eyes from Ellie. And the giggle from Carley. I've had to say goodbye to dozens of children over the years, and let things like this go. But knowing they won't be replaced this time makes it so much harder.
I do have moments where I get excited about who I will be soon. Like when it's 11:00 p.m. and I'm writing a new workshop speech and I realize I will soon be able to do this when the sun is shining. Or when I'm inside on a Saturday writing a new chapter for my next book while my family is out on a bike ride and I remember that I will soon regain my family time. I love to write. I love to talk to people about child care and adoption. So I'm looking forward to having more time for these things. My only concern is that without the children in my daily life my creative juices will stop flowing!
Nothing gets the writer in me going faster than spending time talking with the kids about what they like, what they don't, what their wishes are. I have stacks of scrap paper where I furiously wrote an idea for a book after such a conversation. The kids have such an honest view of life. Nothing messy about it. Pure joy. Pure love. Pure pain. Pure sorrow. Genuine interest in the world they live in. I learn so much from them every day!
So, I'll continue to work on some articles for you, but if you'll indulge me, I'll also spend the next month sharing a bit about what I love about child care, what I'll miss, and what I've learned from these precious children I've been so lucky to have in my life.
I have been in the child care business for over 17 years and I have loved every moment of it. This is why it has been such a difficult decision for me to close my Family Child Care business, Patty Cake Preschool. But being an author, speaker, provider, mother, wife among many other titles has finally gotten to be a load too big for me to carry. June 7, 2007 will be my last day for my school. Each day that it gets closer my anxiety grows. I LOVE these kids! I don't remember what life is like without getting a hug every morning, snuggling with a child on the rocker to read, playing ball on a summer day or even having apples and graham crackers for a morning snack! I have been defined by my child care business for so long it's scary to consider that part of me to be gone.
As I try to sort through the toys to sell at the end of the month I find myself hoarding away many of them! There are certain things I just can't imagine not being in my house. Like the castle with a dragon and princess, the number cups I made with the kids over 10 years ago, my song cards, our tea set, the dump truck in the sandbox. I've decided to keep these items and my excuse is that someday I'll get to be the cool Grandma with lots of neat stuff to play with at her house! Sounds viable right?
Then there's the things I can't save. Like the kisses little Kolton gives. Or the roll of the eyes from Ellie. And the giggle from Carley. I've had to say goodbye to dozens of children over the years, and let things like this go. But knowing they won't be replaced this time makes it so much harder.
I do have moments where I get excited about who I will be soon. Like when it's 11:00 p.m. and I'm writing a new workshop speech and I realize I will soon be able to do this when the sun is shining. Or when I'm inside on a Saturday writing a new chapter for my next book while my family is out on a bike ride and I remember that I will soon regain my family time. I love to write. I love to talk to people about child care and adoption. So I'm looking forward to having more time for these things. My only concern is that without the children in my daily life my creative juices will stop flowing!
Nothing gets the writer in me going faster than spending time talking with the kids about what they like, what they don't, what their wishes are. I have stacks of scrap paper where I furiously wrote an idea for a book after such a conversation. The kids have such an honest view of life. Nothing messy about it. Pure joy. Pure love. Pure pain. Pure sorrow. Genuine interest in the world they live in. I learn so much from them every day!
So, I'll continue to work on some articles for you, but if you'll indulge me, I'll also spend the next month sharing a bit about what I love about child care, what I'll miss, and what I've learned from these precious children I've been so lucky to have in my life.
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